Why We Avoid Healing After Abortion: The Lies We Believe and the Truth That Sets Us Free

For many women and men, the pain of abortion is something they try to bury deep inside, hoping that if they ignore it long enough, it will eventually disappear. But the reality is that unresolved grief doesn’t go away, it lingers, affecting our emotions, relationships, and even our spiritual walk.

At She Found His Grace and He Found His Grace, we have walked with many men and women who once believed they didn’t need healing. They thought they were fine, until God gently revealed that healing wasn’t about punishment or reliving the past. It was about freedom.

So why do so many avoid healing after abortion?

The Lies We Believe About Abortion Healing

1. “It’s in the past. I don’t need to deal with it.”

This is one of the most common lies. Many believe that because their abortion happened years—maybe even decades—ago, they should just move on. But past wounds don’t disappear simply because time passes. Unprocessed pain has a way of resurfacing in unexpected ways—whether through depression, anxiety, broken relationships, anger, or addictions.

Truth: Healing is not about dwelling on the past. It’s about allowing God to restore what was broken so you can move forward in freedom.

2. “God could never forgive me.”

Many believe their abortion is an unforgivable sin. They carry shame and guilt, convinced that God’s grace covers other sins but not this one. This lie keeps people trapped in spiritual darkness, believing they are unworthy of redemption.

Truth: There is no sin too big for God’s grace. Psalm 103:12 reminds us that “as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.” God isn’t waiting to condemn you—He’s waiting to heal you.

3. “If I talk about it, I’ll fall apart.”

The fear of facing the pain head-on can feel overwhelming. Many women and men believe that if they start talking about their abortion, they won’t be able to handle the emotions that come with it.

Truth: Healing is a process, and you don’t have to go through it alone. In a safe, Christ-centered environment, you can take small steps toward healing at your own pace. God meets us in our brokenness, and He is gentle with the wounded.

4. “I have to punish myself for what I’ve done.”

Some believe they must suffer silently, thinking they don’t deserve joy or healing. They may sabotage their own happiness, believing they are unworthy of love and redemption.

Truth: Jesus already took the punishment for your sins on the cross. He doesn’t want you to live in shame—He wants you to walk in the abundant life He offers (John 10:10).

5. “I’m the only one who feels this way.”

Abortion is often hidden in secrecy, making those who regret it feel isolated. The enemy loves to whisper, “No one will understand. You’re alone.”

Truth: You are NOT alone. So many women and men have walked this journey and found healing. When you share your story in a safe place, you’ll realize that there are others who understand, and you’ll find strength in community.

How She Found His Grace and He Found His Grace Helps

At She Found His Grace (for women) and He Found His Grace (for men), we provide a pathway to healing, hope, and freedom.

1. A Safe, Confidential Space

Many fear judgment when sharing their abortion experience. That’s why our healing groups provide a safe, compassionate environment where you can process your pain without fear.

2. A Christ-Centered Approach

Healing after abortion isn’t just about counseling—it’s about encountering the love of Jesus. Our ministry focuses on biblical truth, helping you release shame and embrace God’s forgiveness.

3. Community and Support

You don’t have to go through this alone. In our groups, you’ll find others who understand your journey. Many participants say the biggest breakthrough in their healing came when they realized they weren’t alone.

4. Practical Tools for Healing

We walk through key steps such as:

• Acknowledging and grieving the loss

• Replacing lies with God’s truth

• Receiving and accepting forgiveness

• Walking in purpose after healing

  
  

5. Restoring Relationships

Many don’t realize how abortion impacts marriages, friendships, and even parenting. Healing allows you to rebuild relationships and walk in greater freedom in every area of life.

Are You Ready for Healing?

If you’ve been avoiding healing after abortion, ask yourself:

• Am I tired of carrying this weight alone?

• Do I want to experience God’s grace and peace?

• Is God calling me to step into freedom?

  
  

You don’t have to stay in silence and shame. Healing is possible. Freedom is possible.

If you’re ready to take that step, She Found His Grace and He Found His Grace are here to walk alongside you. Click the button below to begin your journey today or maybe today is a good day to return your intake form.

You are loved. You are seen. You are not alone.