How the Church Should Respond When Someone Shares Their Abortion Story
- Jan 21
- 2 min read
How the Church Should Respond When Someone Shares Their Abortion Story
There are moments in ministry that require more than good theology; they require holy restraint.
When someone shares their abortion story, it's rarely spontaneous.
They have wrestled with fear, shame, regret, and the question of whether they will still be accepted if the truth is known. When they finally speak, it is not a request for answers, it is an act of courage and for someone to give the message of hope, healing, forgiveness, and tell them there is freedom.
Too often, leaders feel pressure to respond quickly, with Scripture, reassurance, or solutions. While those things matter, timing matters more. Healing does not begin with fixing. Healing begins with safety.
A hurried response can unintentionally communicate:
“Your pain makes me uncomfortable.”
“We need to resolve this quickly.”
“Your story is too much.”
But a calm, present response communicates something far more powerful: You are safe here.
How Churches Can Respond With Care
When someone shares their abortion story:
Listen without interrupting. Let them finish. Silence is not awkward; it is honoring.
Validate courage first. Simple words like “Thank you for trusting me with this,” or “I’m so sorry you’ve carried this alone,” go further than explanations.
Resist the urge to fix. Scripture , prayer, and hope are important, but they land best after someone feels heard.
Remember your role. You are not meant to be the only place they process this. You are a bridge, not the destination.
Support Beyond the Conversation
One caring conversation can open the door, but ongoing healing often requires intentional support.
That’s why it’s important for churches to have trusted resources ready before these moments happen.
Confidential, biblically grounded abortion recovery support is available through She Found His Grace, serving women and men who want to heal after abortion.
Helpline: 574-400-5272
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