Why the Holidays Can Trigger Grief After Abortion

Grief doesn’t follow a calendar, but the holidays often shine a light on places in our hearts that still hurt.

You may find yourself experiencing:

• Sadness when you see children the age your baby might have been

• A quiet ache during family gatherings

• Emotional memories you thought you had already moved past

• Pressure to feel cheerful even when you’re hurting inside

• A sense of isolation because others don’t understand your pain

You’re not “going backward.” These feelings reveal where healing is needed and where Jesus wants to meet you.

God Sees Your Tears This Season

The Christmas story is about God coming close.

Just like He saw Hagar in her pain, He sees you too.

“You are the God who sees me.” Genesis 16:13

Your grief doesn’t scare God. Your tears don’t push Him away. Your story isn’t too broken for Him to redeem.

Jesus came into the world to bring light into the darkest places, including the places abortion has wounded your heart.

When Christmas Doesn’t Feel Merry

Many people quietly share with us:

“I don’t know why Christmas makes me cry. ”Everyone else is celebrating, and I feel empty inside. ”The holidays remind me of the baby I didn’t hold.”

These emotions matter. They’re not weaknesses. They’re invitations to healing.

How to Navigate Holiday Grief

Here are some practical steps to help you move through this season with hope:

1. Give yourself permission to feel

You don’t have to fake joy. What you feel is real, and God meets you right where you are.

2. Write Down What’s Coming Up

Journaling helps you process memories, shame, or sadness that may surface during the holidays.

3. Tell Someone Safe

You weren’t meant to carry this alone. Talking to a trusted friend, pastor, or one of our recovery leaders can bring clarity and comfort.

4. Join a Healing Class

Our online abortion recovery classes offer a safe, confidential community that understands your journey and guides you through Christ-centered healing.

5. Take It One Day at a Time

Healing after abortion is not instant. It’s a journey, and Jesus walks every step with you.

Hope Is Still Possible

The message of Christmas is simple but powerful:

Jesus came to restore what was broken and redeem what feels lost.He can heal your heart—even here, even now

“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” — John 1:5

Your story does not end with grief. It can end with freedom.

If You Need Support This Holiday Season

If you’re hurting because of a past abortion, or considering abortion right now, we are here for you.

Helpline: 574-400-5272

Join an Abortion Recovery Class: www.SheFoundHisGrace.org

You don’t have to walk through the holidays alone. God sees you. We see you. And healing is possible.