When Mother's Day Hurts

For many, Mother’s Day is filled with hugs, flowers, and family brunches, but for women who have experienced abortion, it can stir deep, complex emotions. While others celebrate, you may find yourself pulling away, feeling unworthy, grieving silently, or reliving the moment that changed everything.

At She Found His Grace, we talk to women every day who feel this weight. Some have never spoken their story out loud. Others are in the middle of healing. Many ask:

“Is it okay that I feel this sad on Mother’s Day?”

The answer is: Yes. It’s okay to feel.

Grief comes in waves. It doesn’t follow a timeline. And the loss that comes after abortion is real, even if the world doesn’t always acknowledge it. Jesus does. And so do we.

Unhealed vs. Healed Mother’s Day

One woman shared that, for years, she skipped family events on Mother’s Day. She’d claim a migraine or backache, anything to avoid the celebration. But really, it was the grief that felt unbearable.

Another woman, after going through She Found His Grace, shared this:

Mother’s Day used to break me. Now, I can remember without falling apart. I still cry, but it’s different. The sorrow is still there, but now it sits beside hope. My life looks different, and so does this day."

This is the power of healing in Christ. It doesn’t erase the past, but it changes how you carry it.

Ways to Honor & Heal This Mother’s Day

• Take a break from social media. Let Jesus quiet the enemy’s lies and speak peace to your heart.

• Plant a tree, gather flowers, or write a letter to God. Create space to honor and remember.

• Let go of pressure. Mother’s Day doesn’t have to look a certain way.

• Give yourself permission to cry, rest, or reflect. Jesus meets you in the stillness.

• Reach out. Text a trusted friend or contact our helpline; someone who understands is waiting to listen. 574-400-5272

For Friends, Family & Churches

If someone you love has experienced abortion, this day can be incredibly hard. A simple message “Thinking of you today. You’re not alone.”, can offer more comfort than you know.

If you’re a pastor or part of a church leadership team, we invite you to acknowledge the hidden grief that may be sitting silently in your pews.

1 in 4 women in your congregation has had an abortion. This is an opportunity to be a voice of compassion and hope. From the pulpit, consider saying:

“We celebrate mothers today, and we also recognize those who carry pain, those who have lost children, who long to be moms, or who silently grieve their past. You are seen. You are loved. And healing is possible through Jesus.”

Even just those words could open the door for someone to step out of shame and into grace.

If Mother’s Day is heavy for you this year, please know this: you are not forgotten. Your story is not over. And healing is real, lasting, Jesus-centered healing, is possible.

You are not alone. And we’re here when you’re ready.

She Found His Grace Ministries