Sibling Loss From Abortion
My name is Christina I am from Albuquerque, NM, and I mourn my aborted sibling.
I always felt something was very incomplete when I was growing up. One day in April of 2013, my mother told me and my siblings that before she met my daddy and married him, she was with someone else in 1982. The man was my half-sister's father, who pressured my mother into an abortion on January 12, 1983.
When she told me and my siblings what happened, she was in tears, in deep pain and regret. I got up from my seat and hugged her. I said to her, “You and my husband Ken have a common bond—the loss of a child through an abortion that was against your wish.” I also said to her, “Mom, my sibling has forgiven you, Christ has forgiven you, and I shall also forgive.” My mom gave my sibling her name, Gabriella. It now makes sense why she was hurting and blaming herself, when she would suffer a miscarriage. She suffered four. Both my mom & my daddy were blessed with 12 children during their 25 years of marriage. I am the oldest. They almost lost me because the doctors pressured them to have an abortion, but they trusted God and got a second opinion.
Both my family and I started in the pro-life movement in 2013. What brought my mom healing was a walk to Jericho Vigil, which is held every Good Friday. She saw, in a vision, my late daddy holding a beautiful little girl in his arms, clothed in the colors pink and white. They both were smiling.
Growing up, I have witnessed the pain that my mom suffered from her abortion and I have witnessed my husband suffer because of an abortion from a previous relationship. I didn't want any other siblings or parents have to go through the same pain. It motivated me to be a pro-life advocate, and I am a sidewalk counselor in Albuquerque. When the weather is good my sons, Aeric and Alex, and my husband Ken join me in being voices for Life outside of the abortion facilities on the sidewalk.
I received my healing at Rachel's Vineyard Retreat in November of 2018. Before I received my healing I felt complete sadness—very broken and that a huge weight was on my shoulders. Going to the Rachel's Vineyard Retreat has been an amazing blessing. The weight that was on my shoulders was taken away, the sadness & brokenness has turned into joy, and the Lord has made me whole again.
My sons know they have both a brother Jacob & an aunt in heaven waiting for us. We love and miss them both very much. It is because of my sister Gabriella, my adopted son Jacob, my husband, sons, and the babies who can't speak up for themselves that I am Silent No More.